Holiday gatherings often come with plenty of questions from friends and family, but a new survey has revealed that one seemingly harmless question is making Americans uncomfortable.
According to the New York Post, more than half of the American drinkers surveyed believe the question is inappropriate to ask at holiday parties.
Interestingly, baby boomers were nearly twice as likely as Gen Z respondents to object to it.
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As per the survey conducted by Talker Research for the International Alliance for Responsible Drinking, 52% of respondents said asking someone “Why aren’t you drinking?” is inappropriate during the holidays.
The findings, published Monday, November 9, also revealed that 91% of participants believe they should be able to make their own drinking decisions without pressure from others.
The online survey included 2,000 Americans ages 21 and older who drink alcohol. Researchers collected responses between October 13 and October 22.
While most participants supported personal choice, 40% admitted they still feel some pressure to drink when others are consuming alcohol.
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Baby Boomers and Gen Z Disagree on Holiday Drinking Etiquette
One of the biggest surprises was which generation felt most strongly about the question. Nearly three-quarters of baby boomers, 74%, considered it inappropriate to ask someone why they weren’t drinking.
Among Gen Z respondents, that figure dropped to just 37%. Older participants were also more likely to believe that choosing not to drink at social gatherings has become more acceptable over the past five years.
Meanwhile, 55% of Gen Z respondents said they now feel more comfortable declining alcoholic drinks than they did previously.
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Asking personal questions wasn’t the only behavior that bothered respondents.
Nearly two-thirds, 63%, said pressuring someone to have another drink was poor etiquette.
Another 59% disapproved of drinking excessively, while half considered commenting on someone’s alcohol consumption inappropriate.
Other common complaints included expecting everyone to join a round of drinks and refilling someone’s glass without asking.
Moderation also emerged as a major priority, with 53% saying it would influence their drinking choices during holiday celebrations.
When asked to select their single biggest consideration, 40% chose moderation, ahead of taste and cost.
“Moderation and celebration can go hand in hand,” said Julian Braithwaite, chief executive of the International Alliance for Responsible Drinking, as per New York Post.
Americans Want More Non-alcoholic Options at Holiday Gatherings
The survey also offered insight into what guests expect from their hosts. An overwhelming 82% believed holiday gatherings should include appealing nonalcoholic beverage options.
Nearly half, 46%, said they would consider choosing an alcohol-free beer, wine, spirit or cocktail alternative.
Younger adults were particularly receptive, with 58% of Gen Z respondents expressing interest compared with 34% of baby boomers.
“Good hospitality makes room for everyone,” Braithwaite said.
Survey Reveals the One Holiday Question Americans Find Inappropriate